A real gentleman has mastered the art of etiquette under any circumstances and always shows impeccable manners. Small talk is a non-committal conversation, during which people with different backgrounds meet for open and animated talk. It serves as a verbal gauge to discover similarities. Topics are of general character, simple to understand and are to be commented while maintaining one’s distance. Show interest, enquire and ask open questions. Be yourself.

Communicate with all senses

Those proficient in small talk, getting involved with new people without reserve, and easily joining or leaving a discussion, will establish many new contacts in a very short time. A perfect entry is usually created by asking open questions. If you already know your counterpart, a discussion on current daily affairs is most suitable. General conversation is usually the better path to take with people you have not met before. Ideal topics: leisure time, hobbies, family, children, art, culture, theatre, education, exhibitions, sports, the weather, and the host.

Stumbling blocks

Irrespective of whether in everyday business or private life – try not to put your foot in it with regard to style. Absolute taboo topics are: religion, politics, racism, illnesses, and any related jokes. Although gossip is unavoidable, you should never discuss a person in a derogative or disrespectful manner. On the other hand, there is no sense in acting the moralizer. Respect, composure, forbearance, openness, and generous thinking are in demand.

Entertaining broadening of horizons

This form of exchanging ideas broadens the horizon and enriches both parties with information and knowledge. Let your counterpart talk. He will gladly talk about something he likes. The irresistible small talker’s success lies in the fact that he is able to immediately adjust to his counterpart and convey a feeling of wellbeing, enhanced with a good dose of wit, charm and entertainment. And should you ever be at a loss: comment on what you have heard and what has been said with common sense and thus show that you are responsive to your counterpart.

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